Anger: Solving Your Problems Peacefully

Who of us angry?? Who of us is angry about your partner? Many times lack of experience Spock relationship expressing the frustration anger on each other. It is important to know that anger is only one emotion from a variety of our emotions is an integral part of any relationship and especially couples. This is the normative sense, not necessarily destructive. The question is what dose, what is the intensity of anger and our ways of dealing with this emotion. Each of us has a different style of anger expression of a response to anger their partners. The style of our childhood experiences related to expressions of anger family of origin. Anger about the coupe can be visible or invisible. Overt anger is expressed usually noisy quarrels, arguments and accusations. Hidden anger is expressed in different ways such as avoiding closeness, avoidance of sex, smells personal pursuits, work until late, burst on the other example: the children, physical pain, psychosomatic diseases, depression and feeling. Many not aware of what's behind their behavior and sometimes just the couple turn to professional couples therapy, anger and ways Lbitoim exposed.

Anger has double functions in destructive negative but also positive functions. Negative functions: whether overt or covert anger, there is concern that over time produced emotional and physical distance relationship odds. Reasons why the fact that these couples find it difficult to develop a real dialogue between them in which they express their pain and needs. So that over time created their feelings of disappointment and frustration accumulated emotional charges. Gradually disappear reciprocal gestures they had done together, spend more separately than together, more experience about the silences, accusations comptroller cost more and may reach a betrayal or divorce situations. So, the anger expressed at the height of power and vulnerability are severe and destructive. Positive functions: some expressed anger at times need not be aware of. Already Binkotno We are angry and crying and did not verbally express our needs - food, love, attention, etc.. The expectation is that as adults we use language acquired in close contact with your partner Onbta it literally. Many can not express their needs directly, and if so then your partner is not always attentive. In these cases anger, unconsciously, come to refine what we feel. In my experience as a caregiver couples, I meet women or men who experience loneliness and relationships hard time expressing their feelings directly and need attention and affection from your partner. Instead, they are angry about other things.

For example - the woman can be angry at the husband who sits long hours at the computer or the husband was angry that his wife go out alone with her friend. Couples therapy can help them create an intimate atmosphere during the time with the marital therapist to reveal the unconscious needs. Another function that anger is to create distance from a partner. Spouses, one of our conflicting needs is the need for proximity, together with the need for distance, being alone. Double balanced system there is room for these two conflicting needs. However, relations that do not have a personal space where one partner feels suffocated, there likely will be angry that he initiated a fight to create a distance and be alone.

How do you handle anger? Each pair should be aware of his anger about the style of couples, to understand what function fills the anger of their relationship and what the true needs of each one. The challenge is to learn to express anger constructively. To do so need to build a relationship based on open communication, dialogue among, mutual respect and intimacy. The couple must learn to express empathy for each other, learn to express their real needs, be prepared to take responsibility and make changes. Some couples create successful intimate relationships by themselves but there are those who need professional support, advice or a guiding hand. Those couples therapy is recommended to contact a professional. With a double discourse consultant in the consulting room the opportunity to develop dialogue among shares. Anger level down Ocshmbiaim same way it was done eight o'clock.